A fulfilled life consists of joy, intimacy and unity with other people, whether lovers or friends. Lonely people never get to experience the power of love and belonging. Choosing isolation over unity will result in the most miserable lifestyle.
Making friends and finding lovers are adventures that increase the pleasures of meeting new people and experiencing intimacy in life. We look forward to connecting with other people and becoming a part of their lives. The more people we befriend and add to our lives, the more we experience a sense of love and unity.
If this is your desire, you are not alone. Everyone desires to experience the love and friendship of as many people as possible. Celebrities, entertainers and great people of all make and mode are energize by connecting intimately with their audience.
The biggest mistake that most of us make is allowing fear to always stand in way of reaching out to others for friendship and love. Fear is the number one challenger to perfect union. However, if you want to make friends and find lovers, you must stand up against fear and overcome it with unstoppable passion for engaging others.
In order to attract intimate connections within your life, you must believe that you have enough value within yourself to positively impact the lives of others. The good thing about this is that if you are alive today, you have much value, even though it may be hidden under many layers of shyness and low self-esteem.
You must believe that you can make a significance difference in the lives of the people you meet. By adopting this mindset, you are conveying that you are up for giving rather than receiving. If you don’t have a giving mindset, then you will approach relationships a with selfish attitude, a mindset that nearly always drive others away.
Once you have a passion for making difference in the lives of others, then you are ready to make friends and find lovers.
Importance of Place
First you have to discover the places where your type of people might gather. For example, if you are looking to meet people who love the high life scene, you must attend those expensive functions where such people gather. If you are a beach loving person looking for friends and lovers, you must hang out at beaches and attend other lakefront function where the possibility of meeting someone is much easier. And if you are an educator trying to find an intimate friend who may turn into a hot lover, then you must attend the educational functions happening in your town or city.
Knowing the right locations in which to connect with the right people is crucial in getting the right people into your life.
If you are unaware of any locations, you can google for this information. You can simply put” Places to meet people in New York?” Google provide you with all types of alternatives. Choose to attend the locations you feel comfortable with. However, you should always exercise caution. Never go to places that is on the outskirts of town and where a string of dramatic news events occurred. These places are trouble.
If you are looking for special people to come into your lives, ask others for information on places you can go to meet people. You never know who you might be talking to. Perhaps the person has gone through what you are experiencing now and can tell you how he or she met their true companion(s). Others may even have insider knowledge that we will never know of unless we ask.
Don’t be embarrassed about letting others know that you are looking for a special friends or lovers person to become a part of your life. Now is the time to be completely honest, not hiding any secrets in your heart. Spill them out in the open without hesitation. This type of courage will take you a long way in relationships where honesty and truth are constantly required.
When you ask others, you will be amazed at what can occur. I have known friends who have been introduced to special people when they asked bosses, neighbors or total strangers about where to meet people. When you enlist family members and co-workers in your search for friends and lovers, you increase your chances of meeting people to a great degree. I met most of my dearest friends and lovers by this method.
Adopt a Unique Approach
In order to meet people, you should be prepared. Some people will just tell you to be yourself. But if you are the type of person who has struggled with meeting people, it is hard to be yourself. What you need is a ready-made method of conversating with people.
People who are good at meeting people and finding lovers have a unique strategy for doing so. For instance, they have mastered a phrase, compliment or simple inquiry regarding a person. Complimenting strangers on the clothing, hair, or possession they may have will help you connect with others.
You can try this approach almost anywhere: at parties, nightclubs, schools, churches, at grocery stores while standing in line etc. Remember, you are looking to make a difference in the lives of others, even if it is through a well-timed compliment. People feel good when others take an interest in what is theirs.
Your Own Customized One Liners
If you are feeling really risky you can even come up with your own custom invented phrases for addresses a potential lover in at an event, in a restaurant or at a nightclub. Grab a book containing a collection of one liners and see how the pros do it. Then create your own one liner and see how it works. The right words to a potential admirer can