The opportunity to raise children is a special privilege for any father who would love to see his children grow up to be productive citizens of society. Fathers have an unmatchable chance to instill order and direction within a son or daughter.
Critical Stage
The most critical time for raising children is in the age range of 1 to 10 years. These are the years in which children are extremely emotional and imitative. They are observant of every speech and behavior pattern which adults display. For example, small children start saying words which they hear and start doing things which they see adults do, regardless of the morality of the speech and behavior.
During this age range, fathers must model the type of behavior and speech he wants his children to imitate. Positive activity in the home increases the chance for a child to adopt a positive mentality.
Fathers must provide direction and order in every word and behavior in order to steer the child’s life in the way it should go.
The Moment of Truth
The next stage of a child’s life, 11-15 years, must be handled differently. If the previous stage has been neglected, this stage can all the more challenging. A child begins to take on its own thoughts and takes on a more independent nature.
To foster positive behavior a father may have to apply massive redirection and logical consequences.
This is the time a father discovers the impact of his leadership and direction. The child will make many mistakes, but if he corrects himself and begins again in a positive direction, then the child has already learned how to succeed in life.
Journey toward Young Adults
The final stage, 16-19 years, the child is beginning to experience adulthood. He or she is beginning to find out what responsibility is all about. Depending on his choices, he is thinking about his future and the role he could play. If the child has been raised to embrace positivity, he may be thinking about college or is already in his freshmen year.
As a father, you must continue to provide as much direction and encourage as possible. Many children become distant from parents at this stage in order to live more independently. Therefore, understanding and patience is needed for maturing children. As they mature into young adults, and comprehend the ups and downs of life, most children will begin to show appreciation for all that a father as done for them.
However, the progression of these stages is not guaranteed, especially if father refuse to take responsibility for raising their children. The stages can be disrupted by unstable fatherless homes and immoral activities practiced in the observance of small children. Remember, the small a child is the more imitative he or she will be.