One of the most damaging things that often leave a great deal of uncertainty within the health of our relationships is the continual interference of in-laws. Father-in-laws, mother-in-laws, aunts, uncles, cousins and even friends sometimes make suggestions that are detrimental to the relationship. You must be aware of such interference if you desire to keep your marriage or special union strong.
Stopping the In-law Interference
If you want to stop your in-laws from ruining your relationship, you must discover what you are doing to inspire this kind of meddling. Sometimes when our mates are not around we say negative things about them in the presence of our families. We may say he or she is not sensitive or romantic enough or that he or she is lazy or sloppy. This is like throwing gasoline into the fire of criticism and ill suggestions.
Moreover, if you complain a lot about your life in the presence of your family and friends, you may be encouraging hostility against your spouse or partner. For example, if you often complain about finances, lack and limitations, overworking, or why life seems to be so difficult, people may think that your mate or soulmate is useless and don’t appreciate you.
Instead of saying negative things about your life or mate, speak positive and inspiring things about your spouse or soulmate. The more positive things we say about that special person in our lives, the more we inspire others to like them.
That’s what you want to do, always.
Stand Up for Your Relationship, Even if it Hurts Family Members
Another preventive measure to take in order secure your relationship from in-law destruction is to make it known to all family members is that this is the one for you and nothing is going to change that. You must put your foot down against meddling in-laws and even friends.
Sometimes you may have to stay away for a while. Unless you make it clear that your relationship issues are off limits, people will continue to stick their noses in you’re the affairs of you and your mate.
Don’t be afraid to lose the favor of family and friends in order to hold on to the specialness in your relationship. Once you allow a family to cause a breakup, no one will really be there to support you in your most lonely hours. You would have lost a good thing. No one is perfect. Everybody have flaws. Embrace the 90% of love and devotion you receive from your soulmate and move forward in your togetherness.
A solid marriage, relationship, or partnership have no sense of uncertainty. The union is strong because it is developed in secret. Conflicts and challenges are overcome on an interpersonal level between two intimate people who dearly love one another.