Creating a sense of responsibility within the lives of your children should be the top priority of every parent or guardian. Without the knowledge of responsibility, a child will pursue a constant path of pleasure and convenience. He or she will desire the on a silver platter. Irresponsibility and dependency will ruin the opportunity for living a goal-oriented, progressive and honorable life.
In order to instill the significance of responsibility in a child’s life, a parent must start with the assignment of simple household choirs. Ordinary household tasks include taking out the garbage, washing dishes and clothing, cleaning floors, windows, and ovens, dusting furniture, yard work, and running errands.
When to Teach Responsibility
The intention to teach responsibility should start at the earliest age possible, depending on the Child’s ability to handle the responsibility. Teaching a child to pick stuff off the floor or put toys away can start as soon as the child reaches age four: pre-kindergarten.
Once you begin to teach your child responsibility you will be proud of the character you instilled in the child. He or she will grow up with a sense of what is right and wrong. Teachers will compliment you because of the responsibility that your child portrays in classroom settings among fellow students.
The payoff for producing respectful children is wonderful. Despite the difficulty in training your child to take ownership of her life through making wise choices, this heroic effort will eventually bring you reward and recognition as a great parent.
Developing a sense of responsibility within a child is the beginning of creating a great family in which everybody understands their roles. When every family member completes his or her daily household assignments with constancy and delight, teenagers learn how to effectively work together as a team with a mission.
The art of assigning roles depends on the ability of the child to handle the tasks. For example, you wouldn’t assign the 4-year-old boy the task of cleaning out the basement. The majority of 4-year-olds wouldn’t have the strength and intelligence to perform heavy duty sweeping, mopping, moving equipment around etc. Such tasks are appropriate to teenage boys.
Depending on physical strength, household Chores should resonate with the age of the child:
- Washing Dishes: girls or boys, 10 years old or higher
- Dusting furniture: girls, 10 years or higher (girls do a better job)
- Making up beds and folding sheets: girls and boys, 10 years old or higher
- Taking out the garbage: boys, 9-10 years old or higher
- Sweeping and mopping floors: boys or girl, teenagers, 14-15 years old or higher
- Cleaning out the garage: boys or girls, teenagers, 15-16-year-old or higher
In addition to these common tasks, a child old enough to have his on bedroom should keep the room sparkling clean most of time. This means making bed neatly, putting shoes and clothing in the right place and keeps the floor or carpet free of gadgets, paper, and other materials.
In order to measure the level of responsibility, parents should create a schedule and a checklist for the each child. Not only will these tools measure performance, but such tools will inform students that responsibility must be kept up. Taking care of obligations is a never-ending responsibility and each must be done on time.
When children don’t follow the schedules for getting their household chores done, they experience the shame of non-completion and the consequences of laziness. Things begin to pile up and completion takes longer. Chaos builds.
Parents can remind their children regarding the cost of procrastination when it comes to fulfilling tasks and responsibilities. The wise parent will make a comparison between household chores and the real world situations where careers are at stake for those who don’t perform well in the workplace.
Rewards and Reprimands
Many parents think that children should just do what they are supposed to do without wanting anything in return. But as adults, we can agree that this is nonsense. It is human nature to desire rewards and appreciation for our labor. Children are no different.
Part of teaching a child responsibility is the things you do to show that his efforts are worthy of honor and rewards. You show him or her appreciation, first verbally and then through some other rewarding mean such as giving privileges or monetary allowances.
In this way, a child will understand that all that he or she does on a responsible level will eventually pay off. Taking care of responsibility not only develops character but produces material incentives in order to live a quality lifestyle.