What to Do When Your Teenager Goes Overboard

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The teenager who is out of control is a problem. Having children can be one of the greatest blessings in the world. If fact, the bible says that the more you have, the more blessed you are. Nevertheless, if you have one, two or six, children must be raised up in a way that they will not only bless you but also can positively influence society.

However, a teenager can become so overwhelming in attitude and behavior that you may find it very hard to contain him or her. The lives of teenagers can go overboard, especially if they are not giving the support and attention which they need at this age.

A Troubled Teen

Teenagers who are deprived of the encouragement and support can become a source of stress, worry, shame and embarrassment. If you find yourself always going to school to address the issue of classroom disruptions, tardiness, academic inactivity, and possible suspensions you have a big problem on your hands and must act before it’s too late.

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Chances are your teenager is also dodging homework, and engaging in social media networks or doing all types of private activities when he or she gets home. You may be wondering why is Jamie’s room always locked when she is in there alone.

Teenagers are skilled at hiding their activities.

Your first Thing You Must Do

What should you do? The first thing to do is acknowledge that there is a problem going on in your home and with your children.  Many parents think it’s safe to ignore the issue and believe it will someday go away as the child becomes older.

However, the reality is that the more you ignore the circumstances involving your children, the worse the condition becomes.  Soon there will be no turning back. 

Before you confront your teenager, examine yourself. Were you a good role model to them during their most observant years? (ages 2-8) Did you show them good values? If not, you may have to do some apologizing yourself.

Ask to Talk

Attempt to open a communication channel with your child. Depending on the situation, you can call, text, email or meet the teenager the face to face to establish a time to talk.

After a time and place have been set, gently confront the child regarding the issues with his or her attitude and behavior, both in school and in the house. Avoid becoming angry if you sense resistance rising as you ask questions. Stay calm and composed. You are the adult and the role model for controlling your emotions.

Clarify Expectations

Continue to express your concerns and clarify your expectations. Make it know that the behavior will no longer be tolerated without consequences.

Make sure you listen to the child’s side of the conversation. Acknowledge his or her feelings, regardless if those feelings are legitimate. If the teens blame you in regards to neglect or past offenses, don’t be too proud to ask for an apology.

An attempt at Resolution

Attempt to get an understanding and an agreement to make changes. You must be assertive at this stage. Emphasize what is at stake and don’t back down.  Restate your love and care for them. Hopefully, your child will know what to expect from you from then on.

Most teenagers just want to encourage and support from their parents, even if it is in the form of discipline.

The Celebration

Celebrate if an agreement has been reached. Take your teen someplace fun, maybe to his or her favorite restaurant or to a popular movie that’ s showing. Your goal is to prove that you have his bet interest in mind.

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